A few months after my son Bobby died, I had lunch with a few friends. I still wasn’t up to socializing, but I agreed to go anyway. One of the women said something that made me want to jump across the table and grab her by the throat. I know she meant her words asContinue reading “Never Say These 2 Things to a Grieving Mom”
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A Sweet Visit with My Son
You visited me last night You were full of life and laughter I held you in my aching arms Until it was time to let you go As morning kissed my eyes
Grace Defined
The dictionary defines grace as ‘favor or good will.’ A ‘manifestation of favor, especially by a superior.’ When I think about the death of my son, and how it changed my entire world, I wonder at God’s grace. As His child, I have His favor and good will, as described by dictionary.com. In Jerry Sittser’sContinue reading “Grace Defined”
When I am Old
More than a few years ago, there was a poem titled “When I Am Old, I Shall Wear Purple.” As someone who is no longer young, and not yet old, I’m thinking about the person I want to be when my mind fades and my body breaks down. Here’s what I’ve come up with: WhenContinue reading “When I am Old”
It’s Time.
Why do we have a hard time talking about death? It’s inevitable for every human being. The end of this journey is physical death. Yet we think it’s macabre to talk about it, to plan for it, and to watch expectantly for it. My mother is eighty-nine years old. She is ready to die. YetContinue reading “It’s Time.”
My baby is cuter than yours
Nothing prepares a mother for her child’s passing. A mother carries the baby inside her for nine months. He’s part of her. He shares her food, her air. He feels his mother’s emotions, hears her voice. They’re connected by something greater than the slim tether of umbilical cord. Love at first sight becomes more thanContinue reading “My baby is cuter than yours”
Throwing Boulders
Sometimes things are set in motion and seem to move beyond our control. I’d like to say STOP! or Slow Down! so I can be sure the direction is right. But God is up above with the 30,000 foot view and He sees the momentum and is okay with it. We don’t see our theContinue reading “Throwing Boulders”
Life is Inconvenient
When I look at how God works in my life, I must admit that it can be inconvenient at times. It was inconvenient for Bobby to die. It was inconvenient for Mike to lose his job. It’s inconvenient that we have to cook for my mom every night. When I look at my life’s circumstancesContinue reading “Life is Inconvenient”
Unfinished Business
Have you ever taken on a project that started out being fun, but began to drag on and on? Somewhere in the middle you got bogged down, either because it was harder than you expected, or other commitments made you want to just get it done. That’s how my Bobby scrapbook is. I started itContinue reading “Unfinished Business”
“Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep”
I shared with someone at our grief support group that there will come a day when her son’s death was not the last thing she thought of at night and the first thing she thought of in the morning. She asked me, “When? When will that happen.” I answered, “I don’t know.” Although I don’tContinue reading ““Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep””
