Grief will pull you down like an alligator dragging its prey underwater. Here are some things to remember when your grief is as fresh as a new wound:
1. Everyone grieves differently. There is no right way. Give yourself the room to cry, scream, or even laugh.
2. Write a letter to your friends and family, explaining what you’re going through. Ask for their support and understanding. For an example of I letter I sent, let me know and I’ll email it to you.
3. Take a break from grief. When your sorrow is new, it’s overwhelming in its intensity. Give yourself permission to not grieve for a few hours.
4. Rely on your friends and family. Tell them what you need, whether it’s a meal or two, someone to clean your house, or just a shoulder to cry on.
5. Get enough sleep. Your brain feels fuzzy enough. Don’t add sleepiness to the mix.
6. Focus on what you’re doing – be in the moment. It’s easy to be so overwhelmed that you can’t concentrate.
6.5 Remember, you will get through this.