My Mother’s Hands

My mother gave me her ring. She can’t wear it anymore because arthritis has swollen her knuckles. The ring contains four almost perfectly matched diamonds in a row. I always thought it was her wedding ring because she’s worn it for as long as I can remember. She told me she and my dad bought it when I was four years old. They were too broke when they got married in 1943 to afford a proper diamond wedding ring. They bought the ring when they sold some property.

I wear the ring on my ring finger. I can’t wear my plain gold wedding band because my fingers are also knobby with arthritis. Every time I glance down, I see my mother’s hand, so similar to mine, and I smile.

When I was a child, she’d wake me up on Sunday mornings by softly stroking my face. She gently whispered, “Janie, time to get up for ‘kunny kool.’” That’s what I called Sunday School. She’d tickle my face until I opened my eyes.

Her hand dished out a spanking when I deliberately disobeyed her order not to climb on the roof. Why was it okay for my brothers, but not for me?

My mind’s eye sees her hand clasped with my dad’s as they square danced. I see her holding bridge cards, ruthlessly playing to win the $5 pot.

During World War II, she worked as a key punch operator. Her fingers flew over the keys, faster than any of the other women. Even though she’s almost blind from macular degeneration, her hand still accurately finds the keys on the adding machine to punch out the numbers to balance her checkbook.

She and my dad built a motel and managed it themselves. At seventy years old, her hands scrubbed toilets when the maid didn’t show up. Her hands did a thousand loads of laundry and made hundreds of beds.

Today her hands grip her walker as she shuffles into the kitchen to bake cookies or muffins to take to the nurses at the doctor’s office.

When I look down at my mother’s ring, I see eighty-nine years of history in her hands. I see a rich legacy of work, play, hardship and reward. I’m proud to wear my mother’s ring on my hand.

Published by mygoldenchild

Thoughts on grief, loss, and death.

One thought on “My Mother’s Hands

  1. What a wonderful tribute to your mother. I have some fond memories of her when we were growing up. I remember that she had a great sense of humor. That probably helped her deal with all the grief we must have caused her the but can’t seem to remember now.

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